This past week I started an Advent devotional. In reading and reflecting about the first Christmas, two things emerge: waiting and hope are deeply embedded in this season. Charles Spurgeon describes the relationship between waiting and hope, “Waiting exercises our grace, waiting tries our faith; therefore, wait on in hope, for though the promise tarry, it can never come too late.”

In the beginning of my walk through the shadow of death following the loss of my husband, I went on a quest to find words to describe hope. Here are a few thoughts I discovered.

Hope hangs on when there’s barely a thread.

Hope stays the course when there’s no sign of an end.

Hope waits when the door remains closed.

Hope faces challenges while being opposed.

Hope holds tight in the fire and the heat, tethered to the Source of protection and peace.

Hope sustains in the darkest of nights, knowing the dawn will bring the morning light.

Hope keeps going when it doesn’t make sense, doubt and fear cloud the sky.

First a glimmer, then full display.

Hope quietly ascends to show us the way.

The words in Hebrews 6:19 create a word picture that vividly defines hope: “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.” Hope constantly upholds and steadfastly supports us as we continue to cling to God, the One who is our ultimate Hope.

Wherever you are in your journey, I pray you find hope as you move forward this Christmas season.

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With the holidays coming into view this month, it feels like there’s a magnifying glass on our loss: the empty chair at the table, the memories of past holidays, and the ache we feel as we anticipate the celebrations. For some of you, this might be the first holiday of all your firsts. Whether it’s the first or the fifth or the tenth, it’s not easy. Here are some thoughts on managing the holidays that I’ve learned the past three years.

1. Give yourself grace. You don’t have to celebrate the same way. You have permission to do what works for you. Cultural expectations can be put aside as you choose what’s best for you. Whether you choose to stay with traditions or create something different, it’s okay.

2. Make a plan. I found it helpful to create a plan of how my kids and I were going to get through the first Thanksgiving and Christmas. The plan gave me some sense of stability in a space of discomfort. Getting through the holiday itself was less intense when I had a plan.

3. Honor your loved one. In the first year of the loss of my husband, I attended a holiday event hosted by the local hospice program with a friend. At our table, each guest was invited to choose a rock with a single word that was meaningful in remembering our loved one. I still have that rock on my dining room table.

4. Let yourself grieve. There will be tears because we loved someone. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross said, “Our pain and our love are forever connected. To avoid the pain of loss would be to avoid the love and life we shared.” Because we loved, we grieve.

As you gather for the holidays this year, let yourself reflect, remember and adjust with patience in the different space you’re in. It’s okay to be where you are. Where you are today is not where you’ll stay.

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“Sweet Tea for the Soul: Comforting, Real-Life Stories for Grieving Hearts”

Waiting on Hope

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Encouragement for the Holidays

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